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FAQs on messages and Live Chat

  • How do I view my messages?

    Get to your messages simply by tapping on the *Chat* icon in the main menu at the bottom of the screen.  When you’ve read your message, you can mark the message as unread, or hide it. To do this on iP...

  • Can I filter the messages I receive?

    Yes! We make it easy for kinksters to control who can contact them.  You can set your message filter to only receive messages from kinksters with a profile picture, a certain character length, or from...

  • How do I join the Live Chat?

    First, we recommend you read the Code of Conduct (accessed via *Me*, *Settings*, then *About FET*), which outlines the do's and don'ts of the Live Chat to avoid receiving any warnings for not followin...

  • How do I find the chat rules?

    To find chat rules, tap on *Chat* and then *Chat rooms*.  Select one of the chat rooms, and tap on the three dots at the top right of your screen. From the pop-up menu, select *Chat Rules*....

  • How to start a private convo in the Chat

    To start a private convo with someone you met in the Live Chat, press and hold down on the profile picture of the person you want to chat to.  From the pop-up menu, select *Whisper.* You can also brie...

  • What are 'Icebreaker Messages'?

    Icebreaker messages are all first contact messages you send to someone you have not already talked to via direct messages. Those who are a little shy can use the pre-written messages as a quick and ea...

  • When do the icebreaker messages reset?

    The icebreakers reset in a staggered manner starting from the day you send the first icebreaker.  E.g. If on January 1st you send your first 10 icebreakers, 30 days later the tracker adds 10 back, and...

  • What do the icons mean next to a message?

    One check means the message was delivered, and two checks mean the message was read. The trash can icon means the other kinkster deleted the message, and the crossed-over eye icon means they hid the m...