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## Respect our community   

One of the strengths of our community is that it's open and nonjudgmental. Always be friendly and tolerant of other members. It’s not cool to threaten, harass, stalk, or abuse others - or express views that may be considered racist, bigoted, or hateful towards another individual, group, culture, race, religion, gender, sexuality - or kink.   

If it's your first time in a kinky community, then welcome to your new home! But, we recommend you take it slow. Use our educational resources, take time to read other kinkster's profiles, and get involved in discussions, threads, or chats with whom you find an affinity. We’re a friendly bunch.   

## Follow the law and our values   

Your safety is paramount, so we ask you to adhere to the digital SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual), RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) and PRICK (Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink) philosophy when talking with others. While we can't control what happens between kinksters once they decide to meet in person, any behavior that may be deemed harmful to others should be reported to us with full details.   

## General legal constraints 

Our kinky online home is not a place to support or praise terrorism, organized crime, hate groups, incest, bestiality, or illegal drug use.   

Even if you feel ready to explore your kinky tendencies at 17, to join our community, you must be legally of age – which means over 18.   

In the spirit of living up to our community values and adhering to law in some countries, sending unsolicited non-consensual dick pics or related content (cyberflashing) isn’t cool. If reported by another user, users will receive a warning, if there are multiple reports, users will face a ban.   

While we acknowledge Financial Domination as a legitimate part of BDSM, unfortunately, for legal reasons, we cannot allow Findommes to operate in our community - this also applies to sugar babies looking for sugar mommies/daddies (and vice versa), picture or panty sellers - or offering kinks for financial gain.   

## Protect personal privacy   

To protect kinksters' data, we don't allow users to publish contact details, e.g. phone numbers, emails, social media handles or Kik addresses either via an image, video, or text in the Live Chat, BDSM Forum, on Profiles, or in Kinky Ads. Only share personal contact info via direct message when you’ve built trust with the person you’re talking to.   

The number one rule of being a kinkster, whether in your local or online community - we don’t out each other. When you come across a kinky person in a vanilla setting, don’t mention their kink unless they do. You never know what someone could lose by having their kinky ways outed.   

## Keep business aside   

We don't allow anyone to offer or request money - period. If asked for money, please report the user.   

Advertising goods, services, or spamming is not allowed anywhere on the site. Nor do we allow anyone to conduct market research. If you’d like to advertise with us, please contact our Support Team   

Again, to protect kinksters' data, we do not allow anyone to post requests relating to an academic thesis or any other educational research. However, officials from universities or the press are welcome to contact us.   

## Report fakes and multiple profiles   

Having multiple accounts is against our Terms of Use. If you’re locked out, usually there’s a reason for it. If you can’t access your account, reset your password, or our Support Team can help - don’t create another profile. If we discover multiple accounts linked to a single user, any secondary profiles will be disabled. The only exception is for couples with a couple-profile.   

In addition, we support kinksters who suspect another account of being fake or a scammer, so don't hesitate to hit the 'Report' function, and we'll fly into action. Reporting an account is anonymous, and the reported profile won't know who reported them - but for obvious reasons, do not post any suspicions publicly.   If you spot someone who may be violating our guidelines, please help us by using our built-in report feature. It’s your community, too!   

Acknowledge our warnings If you receive a warning notification on your profile, don’t panic - all you need to do is acknowledge it and ensure you stick to these guidelines in the future. Simple!

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